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The Miracle Mindset

By Cheryl Bourget

Webster dictionary defines a “miracle” as:
1: an extraordinary event manifesting divine intervention in human affairs
2: an extremely outstanding or unusual event, thing, or accomplishment

I believe the extraordinary, outstanding, unusual event defined as a “miracle” takes place with humans first and overflows into their affairs! I believe in – The Miracle Mindset!

I am so blessed by the depth of profound inner personal life-changing work that so many of my clients are doing right now through empowered perception and choice. They are taking personal responsibility; they are getting creative, listening to their deepest longings, and moving personal mountains. It seems my clients are learning to awaken from their victim consciousness of “Life happens to me,” into a trust in their Source connection that “Grace happens through me.” This returns them to -A Miracle Mindset.

The Miracle Mindset awakens when you put your most complicated or embarrassing situations, greatest confusion or fear, and biggest requests into the hands of Divine Intervention to orchestrate an outcome that is beyond your current state of comprehension or imagination. When you can’t see the way through and feel you need a miracle, your job is to trust that guidance, someone or something, is coming to you in this moment or exactly when you need it. Look for it, listen for it, and remain deeply present to receive it and willing to act upon it.

The Miracle Mindset reunites you with your Higher Self. This Self is the Source Energy that unites and makes whole all people, places and situations. It absolves and compensates us even for huge mistakes, misdirection or injustices. It absolves with wisdom- holding on to the teaching but letting go of the burden of suffering- so that you can return to love and let the stream of well-being back in.

Sometimes when living within a Miracle Mindset, miracles seem to appear out of no where as an intervention for safety and security – Often times as a just missed accident, or the showing up of resources just in time to pay a bill, or being in the right place at the right time. The Miracle may present itself as the experience of a long held dream coming together against all odds, like a woman becoming pregnant after being told she could never have babies. Sometime, we are able to finally forgive or be forgiven and we are returned to a state of Love never experienced before.

We are all creating our life’s experiences all the time consciously and unconsciously; the Miracles too!

Cheryl Bourget can provide the tools and support to guide you in your Miracle Mindset. Give her a call. She would love to hear from you. (480-518-3660)

Having a Plan

By Cheryl Bourget

Are you zeroing in on success by following a focused action plan? If you desire a life of inspired success on all fronts, then taking action steps will help pave the way.

I believe Faith without inspired action is useless. I can believe my desired outcome will come, but without taking inspired action steps towards the end result, it won’t. Experience with applying the Law Of Attraction principles has proven that my attitude towards my ideal experiences is the composite of thoughts, feelings, words and actions regarding it. And my attitude will either be positive or negative.

When we have a positive attitude, we position ourselves for success. If our attitude is negative, we position ourselves for failure. Simple, isn’t it?

Our actions are a direct reflection of our beliefs. So, if we’re not taking the steps available to best position ourselves for success, then we don’t believe we will have the success — or we don’t believe we deserve it.

If you’re confused about a particular result you’re getting and wondering why it’s not in alignment with your stated outcome, simply examine the set of actions you’ve taken (or not taken) around your objective. Here’s a simple process you can follow to accomplish this:

• Identify all the action steps that best position you for success in your desired outcome.
• Prioritize the steps in terms of their importance towards achieving your outcome.
• Note how many of the action steps you’ve not yet taken. How many of those place near the top of the list?
• Now make a list of the distractions affecting the focus on your success action. Decide if those distractions are truly worth your attention! Be honest with yourself.

You’ve addressed the distractions and are still not taking the actions necessary for success? Then, back to the drawing board. You’ll need additional work at rebuilding your focused action plan, addressing the belief system that will sustain it, and then making a firm commitment to follow through. In the end you will find that having a plan and being committed to it will truly pave your way to success.

The Path of Spiritual Development Has Many Twists and Turns!

By Cheryl Bourget

Everyone encounters distractions in their life; for some, this is a normal way of living and spending days, months even years distracted from a greater Truth.

Those of us on a conscious path of spiritual development know that external circumstances are only a reflection of our inner reality and quality of relationship to Source perspective. We know we can use our attitude, placement of attention, and vision to harness spiritual energy and create a new realty based in a higher Truth.

As we move further into an enlightened state, however, something attempts to interfere and throws us out of balance. Some say it’s the ego’s attempt at maintaining control. Others say it’s the mind and body attached to unhealthy patterns resulting in a repetition of negative drama. I see it as a combination of all of these. We have a choice. We can get lost in reactivity and fill ourselves with worry, doubt and frustration, or we can see these obstacles for what they are ~ mere distractions.

Managing Distractions on the Spiritual Path

As we embody higher and lighter vibrations of our true spiritual essence, our inner shadow aspects rise to the surface in order to receive the healing salve of self-love and acceptance. This, in itself, can be distracting. Add to this the typical indications of change we experience as we grow and evolve, and we become vulnerable to outside influences. Someone’s trivial grievance towards us feels like outrage. Money or health issues building up become overwhelming. Gossip pulls at us from every direction. These are signs that it’s time to stop, breathe, and turn inward in order to reconnect to our higher self and Source perspective.

Helpful Suggestions for Avoiding Spiritual Path Distractions

Recognize the distractions. What typically distracts you? Do you get caught in power struggles, control games, worrying, caretaking others, complaining, people pleasing, or solving problems that don’t yet exist? When you bring awareness to your common distractions they will have less power over you.

See it for what it is. As soon as you catch yourself reacting, over analyzing, dramatizing, fantasizing, complaining or whatever it is you do to distract yourself, see it for what it is. Move into your higher-self perspective where you simply observe your thoughts, emotions, and behavior without judgment. Accept what is happening and remind yourself that it is just a distraction which will diminish as you withdraw your energy from it.

Find your humor. We often get serious with distractions thus giving them more power. Have a good laugh at yourself, the situation and anyone else involved. This will help you move out of your resistance and come back to your spiritual connection.

Focus on your higher purpose. As you go through your day, ask yourself what’s most important. Define your purpose for the day and stay focused on that. Let distractions move into the background from your highest purpose.

Spend time in silence.
The external world can be very distracting. If we spend too much time focused on it, we start believing that it has power over us and forget that we create it through our inner thoughts, expectations, vision and vibration. Take time, each day, to connect to your higher-self and the Source of all life. Use meditation, contemplation, time in nature or whatever supports you to be with your Genuine Self in the current of Love.

Looking into the Mirror

By Cheryl Bourget

In my coaching practice, we have been exploring the belief that everything IS energy in form. We are all one, all connected in an ocean of love, and there is no doubt that each of us reflects something in another. We all have various vibrational set points that align with everything in the same frequency. Like attracts like, so to speak. We cannot be separate; we cannot be apart in the ocean. We can only demonstrate what is, and the Universe acts as a huge reflector of that reality.

At first, my clients are resistant to the idea. Then, as we demonstrate how it works in their life, they relax and begin to use the process for benefiting their lives in a more pleasing way.

What happens when you look at your reflection in the privacy of your bathroom mirror? Do you see all beauty of your physical being or do you find fault with aspects of your face and body? Is there a sense of peace or discomfort when you look deeply into your own eyes? If you focus on one feature, do you find it interesting or disappointing?

When you have a positive experience looking at your own reflection, do you feel pleased and own that for yourself or do you believe it’s just an excellent mirror? And, when you find aspects that do not please you, do you then consider how to accept or improve them or do you blame the mirror for being a poor reflector? For me – whenever I’m out shopping and trying on clothes, I think I look over weight. Then, I blame the mirror for being defective in some way!

Now, sit with the possibility that all of life, every person and animal you meet, every situation in which you find yourself, also offers you a mirror for seeing your own reflection but on an inner level – a reflection beyond your physical presence. This is the reflection of your innermost emotional life, your spirits longings, your deepest beliefs and patterns of being as well as your conscious and unconscious beliefs. How would you see that reflection? Would you be able to see it as a gift and an opportunity to know yourself better? Would you be able to honor the parts of you that you find appealing and seek to transform those that do not serve you? Or, would you instead compliment or blame the mirror?

Meeting someone who challenges you emotionally through their behavior or words and whose actions perhaps cause you to reflect on your feelings – be it anger, sadness, discouragement, rejection, or joy – is actually an opportunity to look into that mirror. Perhaps a part of you is present in that person you are seeing. Perhaps this person you’ve attracted is here to show you feelings about yourself and your life that you still need to understand and accept in order to live more abundantly. You can only see what is already there within your own self, already operating or not, but nonetheless present on some level.

When you become upset because you perceive someone is not being kind to you, what part of you has also behaved unkindly to another? Where is the judge in you that trivializes your own life when a friend annoys you with trivial habits? Do you stay open to the possibility that the casual stranger who genuinely smiles at you and makes your morning more blessed is also the part of you that can bring the gift of simple love to another?

Try this Mirror exercise today:
1. Write down the name of a person and the role they play in relationship with you.
2. Write out exactly how you perceive them and how that perceptions make you feel.
3. Now, ask yourself if you have similar behavior with them or in some other area of your life or do you have unresolved feelings from the past that are up for review now due to this experience?
4. Make peace with yourself and soothe this aspect within YOU. As you change from within, your outer experience will respond accordingly!

Hopefully, this exercise will help you, too, better accept this belief that everything is energy in form. You will also better understand, from this experience, the circular energy that truly connects one to another in this huge reflector of reality called life.

“Taking the Road to Self-Acceptance and Love”

By Cheryl Bourget

Self-acceptance is being loving and happy with who you are NOW and a reflection of your Source Connection. Some call it self-esteem, unconditional love, others self-love, but whatever you call it, you’ll know when your accepting yourself because it feels wonderful. It’s an agreement with yourself to appreciate, validate, accept and support who you are at this very moment, even those parts you’d like to eventually change. This is important… even those parts you’d eventually like to change.

When we consciously choose to love the parts of ourselves we would like to change we begin to understand what beliefs are holding that behavior in place. This knowledge allows us to know what beliefs we need to begin focusing on in order to bring about wanted behavior. The process of self-acceptance works in both directions to support both knowing why we are in a reoccurring pattern that we want to change and as well as knowing who we want to be and what need to accept and believe in for that change. When we empty one belief, it creates a space for Source energy to come and build on a better more appropriate belief about who you accept yourself to be today.

Try this exercise:

Identify a behavior or situation you would like to change and write a short paragraph describing it in its unwanted state.

On a separate piece of paper, write as many supporting beliefs as possible that are at the core of the experience for you.

Example- I am over weight and cannot seem to ever lose the weight or keep it off, if I do.

Supporting beliefs may be- All the woman in my family are overweight. I’m big boned. It’s really hard to lose stomach fat over the age of 40.
Now sit with your beliefs for a few moments and allow yourself to notice that what you believe is exactly what is. Accept and appreciate how powerful those beliefs are in guiding and designing your current realty.

Write another short paragraph describing the same situation as the way you want it to be.

On the separate piece of paper, identify and write all the new beliefs that you will need to accept about yourself and begin to build into your Thoughts, Words and Actions on a daily basis.

Once you begin making progress, you will see that the road to self-acceptance and love is achievable though, like anything else worth having, requires dedication and hard work. And you know what? You are worth it and you will feel wonderful.

The Real Reason We Feel Stuck!

By Cheryl Bourget

It’s an inner dynamic called “competing commitments,” and until you know how it works and the ways to reverse it, you may feel stuck and unable to change.

Business people, athletes, musicians, artists, writers, husbands, wives, and parents are all very familiar with the concept of commitment. Most often the word is used among those referencing employees, clients, customers, fans, followers, lovers, friends, or children. Those who are committed are usually loyal, stay with us through thick and thin, learn with us and grow. Those who are not committed come and go like the wind!

But there is another side to commitment. To be balanced, the concept must be applied in the other direction as well, i.e. how committed is the business person, athlete, musician, artist, writer, husband, wife to their employees, customers, fans, followers, lover, friend or children? Even more important is how committed is the individual to his or her own calling to learn and grow through commitment? This is an intriguing question and comes up often for individuals on the path of conscious change.

The answer to these questions can sometimes be hidden from view. This is especially the case when one considers the concept of – competing commitments. What is a competing commitment? Let’s take a look at a client of mine. She is a courageous entrepreneur, businessperson who has opened a massage therapy business. She is passionate and sincere in her commitment to provide a high quality therapeutic experience that will benefit herself, clients and the community.

When she came to me for assistance, her business had recently opened and was still in embryotic stage. One of the most vital strategies for her was to do lots and lots of connecting with people in the community as a way of maximizing visibility. Clearly, some people are better at this than others and, in this case, my client recognized the need but was very uncomfortable with networking and meeting new people. The concept of competing commitments became a major consideration here.

On one hand, she had the visible commitment to get out and meet as many people as possible to tell all about the new business in the community. However, networking was not an activity that really excited her, so she found it all to easy to come up with other, less vital activities to engage in as a way of avoiding venturing out into her marketplace.

The question then became one of identifying the behind–the-scenes commitment that was driving her non-productive behavior. Was it a commitment to safety? Was it a commitment to avoid rejection? Maybe it was a commitment to avoid a fear of some sort, e.g. fear of success, failure or people? Clearly, there was some competing commitment that was, in reality, stronger than her visible and supposedly primary commitment. The competing commitment was winning the battle and determining her behavior!

Once the culprit was identified, I was able to help her see how silly her commitment was to the competition, and instead guided her toward building a connection to her desired commitment! She then was able to realize her fear of rejection as an invitation to welcome deeper acceptance and connection to herself and also calling on a personal and community level. Strategically, over time, she was able to build her own feelings of acceptance allowing connections to grow and reflect back to her with a thriving business that was vital in her community.

Are you, too, having difficulty doing those things necessary to accomplish your outcomes? Perhaps you have a competing commitment lurking in the background. This tool, Competing Commitment Exercise, may be helpful! A competing commitment can usually be found and identified by working this reflective exercise. Give it a try!

Taking Stock and Gaining Perspectives

By Tina Colton

2012….phew! Does anyone else wonder what happened to the last 11 and half months? For me, this time of year presents so many competing pressures – planning for 2013 with my business, desiring to acknowledge those who supported me in 2012 in a meaningful way, wanting to spend time with loved ones (both four- legged or two-legged) and, oh yeah…the holidays. It would be easy to walk around and intermittently let out a solid, “Ahhhhhh!” and then continue on with the next thing on my list.

Fortunately, and especially, it’s during this time period when having tools and resources to provide me with a broader, wiser, perspective becomes critical – if not sanity saving. One such tool perfect for this time of year is a process we use at CLLC called “taking stock.”

Taking stock is a reflective activity which allows you to gain a more holistic perspective on your year, learn from your accomplishments, and take accountability and action for areas in which you would like to see improvement in the New Year. Unlike setting New Year resolutions which always, for me, seem as improbable and desirable as getting on the scale the first day after the holidays, “taking stock” offers a way to already be clear and in action before the clock strikes midnight on 2013.

This “Taking Stock” exercise is our gift to you during this holiday season. (Click here http://tinyurl.com/cfv7a2g.) See how it works for you. Remember, a more expansive, sane, clear and compassionate perspective is waiting for you just around the corner!

Restoring Your Natural Equilibrium

By Dr. Tina Colton

One of the most common coaching objectives cited by clients during their first coaching session is the desire to “get back into balance.” Two things strike me about this desire. First, how we tend to frame it as something we “get back to” – as if it is a natural state a deeper, wiser part of us remembers.

And second, initially it sounds like a simple matter of prioritization and allocation. What matters most to you personally and professionally? And if you were to segment your time out, how much time should you dedicate to each work/life priority? Easy…block off your calendar and get ‘er it done! Right? NOT!

From my own personal experience and in working with clients at sorting through this desire, balance is less about how we spend our time and on what activities, and more about restoring or “resetting” to this inner sense of equilibrium. (Sounds mysterious and yet compelling at the same time…perhaps I flatter myself…) This inner sense of equilibrium provides us with greater clarity, ease, and confidence, to make decisions, take action, and enjoy our life.

As you would probably guess, given the personalized nature of this restorative process, there is no “cookie cutter” approach but rather a process of self-discovery. One key way of supporting this self-discovery is staying tuned into our current state of balance. Fortunately, most of us realize when we’re out of balance…eventually.

We tend to notice this state of disequilibrium through feelings of being overwhelmed, exhausted, or perhaps even a physical symptom. For some of us, you may know someone like this, we tend to ignore smaller signals like feelings of anxiety, fatigue, or muscle pain, and require a dramatic episode which seems to come careening out of the sky. For me, this has ranged from being diagnosed with a serious illness to totaling my car.

Fortunately, learning through my experiences, I’ve come to notice more “subtle evidence” of my disequilibrium sooner – which certainly serves to save time, suffering, and car repair expenses! For me, these signs start out subtly, are embedded in my every day activities, and can be easily explained away as being “focused” or “attentive.” Slowly, however, they become more pervasive, such as a need to check my e-mail five times in an hour to make sure a message was not missed, and morph into a way of operating which if unchecked, determines my emotional state.

For example, I may get attached to a specific response or outcome for a project, relationship, etc. If someone or something does not match this “right” or “desirable” response or outcome – things are off track and my failure is eminent! Needless to say, overtime this “subtle evidence” can take on a life of its own and eventually feel as dramatic and despairing as the external dramas.

Learning with my clients, and through my own experiences, I’ve come to see the value of incorporating a combination of mindfulness and mindlessness practices as a way to stay tuned into this “subtle evidence” and use it as a way to transform mild signals into productive resources for restoring inner equilibrium.

Mindfulness involves focusing the mind’s energy on a productive thought path. This includes noticing the quality of your thinking. Are you spending more time worrying about the future, trying to control outcomes, or defending your point of view? How does this line of thought support your desire for balance? How does this way of thinking feel in your body?

Common tools for mindfulness are journaling, reflection, reframing limiting beliefs, and certain types of meditation.

Mindlessness entails, as it would suggest, releasing your mind in some way from mental activity. Some common practices which provide this release are guided meditations, sensuous experiences that engage our physical and emotional states, and physical activities supporting repetitive movement to “zone out.”

Perhaps you have already developed your own “best practices” for restoring or maintaining inner equilibrium. If not, customize your own approach by experimenting with an array of mindfulness and mindlessness practices and decide what works best for you. Expect that over time, your favorite tools will evolve – just as you will!

Checking-in on your current state of balance:
• Find a quiet, private space, and your favorite resource for taking notes.
• Close your eyes, or gently rest your gaze, and allow a deep inhale and exhale into and out of your abdomen. Take 5-10 more deep breaths, expanding your inhale and exhale just a bit with each one.
• Keeping your focus on the breath. Begin to notice how you’re feeling physically as you breathe. Simply taking note of what’s happening in your body. With your next exhale, expand your awareness to your emotional state – how are you feeling in this moment? Continue breathing and observing for a few more breaths.
• When you’re ready, open your eyes and jot down your observations. Ask yourself, “What has this check-in helped me to become more aware of in my current state of balance?” Based on this knowledge, what might be one small action you can take in supporting your inner balance? It might be to slow down, take a nap, delegate a task, or reschedule plans. Schedule something restorative to you – perhaps a walk in nature or your favorite physical activity.

The next time you desire a greater sense of inner balance, along with gaining clarity on your priorities, spend some time tuning in to your “subtler signs” of disequilibrium. It may provide you with greater insights on how to return to that desired state – without all the time, suffering, and car expenses!

Measuring Success – How it might get in our way!

By Dr. Tina Colton

Have you ever had conversations, perhaps several in the same week, where people you respect and trust congratulated you on achievements in areas you strongly believed were deficient? Perhaps you may even have held some shame at feeling you were not where you “should be” in those areas? No? Maybe it’s just me. For those of you who can relate or know someone who knows someone who might identify with this ‘challenge’, here’s what has been coming more clearly into focus for me.

First, most of us, especially those born with the high-achiever gene, tend to distort, and I mean DISTORT, the measuring sticks we use for assessing progress towards the achievement of goals. As a coach and consultant, I’ve listened to many brilliant, talented, creative, men and women admonish themselves on not meeting certain success criteria en route to a personal or professional goal.

The problem is frequently these success criteria are largely based upon concerns we have over how others will perceive our achievements. This includes how peers, family, friends, co-workers, high school and college alumni, and whomever else we’ve ‘reconnected’ with on Facebook, will view the speed and quality of our progress. Interestingly, the success criteria we measure ourselves against are actually an invalid yardstick – like comparing apples to oranges.

In addition, we develop an internal assessment system to measure our assumed progress against this presumed external validation even when we’re not asking for the perceptions of others. In others words, this internal assessment system provides constant feedback from a non-existent internal panel of judges or critics, who make Simon Cowell seem gentle!

To top it off, most of us are totally unaware this internal process is activated and running the show. What we may notice, instead, is feeling increasingly incompetent, overwhelmed, frustrated, and discouraged. We generally view people or situations outside of us – spouse, partner, employee, boss, client, or our financial situation – as the reason for our emotional state.

What we can miss, in the midst of this emotional state, is how our internal process of self-assessment and faulty criticism is the main culprit for how we feel. Pretty soon, we begin to lose confidence and cease taking action for fear of “getting it wrong” or make decisions that are fear based, thus negatively impacting relationships and derailing our progress.

I recall the first 3 months of starting my coaching business when I was constantly comparing myself to a colleague who had been in business for over 10 years. You can imagine how unrealistic it was for me to expect for myself the same degree of clarity and sophistication in my business model, operations, client development approach (what was that?!), etc. as my career-seasoned colleague. Yet for several months, I frequently allowed this invalid yardstick to determine my sense of progress as an entrepreneur, slowly losing confidence in my ability to take certain actions for fear of not measuring up.

The solution to this unproductive dynamic of a ‘faulty’ internal assessment process is becoming aware of it and then revising our personal success criteria to one more relevant to our particular context or situation.

In my case, a conversation with a mentor and fellow entrepreneur helped me see how this ‘faulty’ internal assessment was operating in my life and impacting my results. This awareness then allowed me to put matters regarding my progress into a more productive perspective. With this new perspective, I was able to revise my success criteria to one more relevant to a new business owner such as targeting a few individual clients verses entire organizations. The revised success criteria enabled me to slowly move into more productive action by taking smaller steps, seeing successes, and building confidence.

For me, as one of those ‘high-achievers’, I consistently need to review my success criteria to ensure its ‘fairness’ and relevance is in support of my progress. Journaling is one way to support this success criteria review. The following are a couple of methods that work for me; they can work for you too.

• Bring to mind a goal you have, personal or professional. List out how you’re measuring its progress. Be really honest with yourself, perhaps thinking of the concerns you have over what others say or think about you.
• Examine your list of success criteria – e.g. time goals, quality measures – and ask yourself if they are realistic given your current situation. What would be a more realistic measurement, given your specific circumstances?

I hope I’ve given you some food for thought and inspiration for reviewing your own personal progress and achievement yardstick. Like me, you may find that a revision to a more realistic perspective can mean all the difference in the world.

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